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The 7 Words Every Man Longs to Hear From A Woman
Embed from Getty Images What would change if she acknowledged you and said these words? — I first met Iyanla Van Zant at the “Million Man March” in Washington, D.C. on October 16, 1995. She was there....
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Asking for What You Need in a Relationship
Embed from Getty Images We all have needs – and not just the need for food and shelter. Our needs are fundamental, and yet it very difficult for many of us in relationships to say, “This is what I...
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Man Alive! Conflict Doesn’t Have to Take You Down or Tear You Apart [Podcast]
— Since I was young I’ve been confused by how little education we get about something so important to us as human beings — Relationships! To many of us, life doesn’t feel complete without partnership...
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Why Friendship Breakups are Worse Than Romantic Breakups
— One of my nearest and dearest friends of close to ten years told me face-to-face that she didn’t want to be my friend anymore. Over the past few months, I noticed she wasn’t responding to my text...
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Gay Men and Texting
— Every week as a therapist, without fail, I hear stories of hurt feelings and painful miscommunication stemming from the use of technology. It’s obvious that many friends and boyfriends tend to share...
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Your Relationship: Why is It so Hard to Apologize?
— Jack had a rough week at work and by Friday night was worn out. As a result, he wasn’t exactly at his best emotionally. His wife, Sofia, said something that just hit him the wrong way. She was...
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Your Relationship: What You Do That Hurts Your Partner
— I talk with a lot of couples about their relationship. And I talk with clients one-on-one who also want to talk about their relationship. Inevitably, we discuss hurt feelings. The pain they...
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How Name-Calling Damages Your Relationship
— Luke and his wife, Kaylee, have been having an ongoing disagreement that they haven’t yet found a way to resolve. To say they are angry at each other is almost an understatement. They are really...
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Why We Go Cold On Our Partners [Video]
— The story of the path to coldness in love is well known. We start off full of affection for one another and then – with time – feelings fade. We start prioritising work; we check our phones while...
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Your Relationship: Ask, Don’t Accuse
— Mario asked his wife, Kate, to help him move the couch so he could clean underneath it. He’s been making an effort to do his half of the work around the house. But an old sports injury causes his...
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Daddies Hurt, Too
I’ve learned how fragile and sensitive to criticism my husband’s and our son’s tough exteriors can be. After years of living with my husband, I came to realize that if he said, “I don’t know. I don’t...
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Try Humanizing Instead of Demonizing
— Had one of those days lately when a family member, friend, or someone you don’t even know, steps up to the plate, swings hard, and knocks your day right out of the park? In the right place at the...
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What Hurts Most About Loving Someone
I folded the pages and tucked them into the envelope. It took about two days to mail it. I probably would’ve sooner, but I was nervous. And I needed a stamp, but whatever. I walked by the mailbox a few...
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You Don’t Always Have to Be Sorry … and How to Stop
How many times in a day do you apologize? You bump into someone, “I’m sorry,” someone tells you about a bad experience, “I’m sorry,” you don’t have time to do one more thing for one more person and...
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I Lost My Best Friend
— Recently, I lost my best friend. She didn’t pass away, and I didn’t forget where I put her. She broke up with me. She broke up with me and I was devastated. Truth be told, there are more moments than...
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You Can Check Out Any Time You Like, but You Can Never Leave
I’m good at hiding it. The emotional baggage I drag around all the time. Most of the time, I forget it’s there until something triggers it. I don’t like talking about it, because people sometimes...
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I Don’t Mean to Hate You, for the Hurt You Didn’t Mean to Cause Me
You didn’t mean to hurt me? I know. You didn’t mean to disrespect me? I believe you. You weren’t trying to make me sad, and you are sorry? I know you are. This time though, I need you to accept my...
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What To Say and Do When Your Partner Hurts You
When someone has hurt you, it usually means one of the following: What they said/did was generally offensive. What they said/did touched an emotional wound. What they said/did prevent you from getting...
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8 Stupid Things Couples Do After a Quarrel
It can be said that no husband and wife do not have conflicts, no matter how good or loving the husband and wife are, there are times when they are angry and upset. The difference is that the husband...
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Why I Won’t Get Mad If Your Kid Hits My Son
It started when my son was only 18 months old. His Montessori daycare started sending behavior notices home because he was hurting his classmates. I had started to feel terrible anxiety any time we...
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